My Soapbox

Disclaimer: This is not directly written towards anyone in general so when you are reading this please don't think "did I say something to her."

OK, here it goes. This has been weighing on me for sometime to write but I just never have.

Just because I have chosen to work does not make me a bad mother. Just because someone stays at home with their kids doesn't make them a good mom. Trust me the first time I left Brier to go back to work I thought I was going to die. This has been a hard decision for me and Dusty. I have prayed about it a lot, I mean A LOT but decided it is best for my family if I work.

We are so blessed to have my mom able to keep the kids (she probably does a better job with them than I would) and we are blessed to have Dusty's mom there as a backup anytime we need it. Don't get me wrong there are days that I long to be at home with my kids, like today when they are sick and grumpy but then they're are days that I enjoyed getting to come to work. After many months of struggle I finally see it as I have the best of both worlds, my kids get to spend time with their grandmothers and will grow to have a close bond with them and I get to get out and spend time with other grown ups. There is nothing more that I enjoy as getting to go get them and going home every day. I would rather be a good mom during the time I am at home with them than a bad mom who feels she is stuck at home all the time and longs to talk to another grown up. I am also blessed to have the job I have with incredible time off and benefits that are much needed.

Maintaining a home, raising a family, and keeping a full time job is not easy and most days I go home and do everything stay at home moms do including cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. Working moms don't have little fairies that come do all that stuff for them. (I did recently get a cleaning lady because I can't keep Baylor from licking our floor seriously she's a human vacuum.)

So just because you have decided to stay at home with your kids doesn't make you better than me, its just means we have made different decisions. Of course, I am not saying that staying at home is not wonderful too. I am only saying that for me, for our family, for now, this is what I am supposed to do.

So if you are a stay at home mom and you have never been a working mom then don't look down on them. Like your mom always said walk a mile in their shoes first.

Thank you, I'll step down off my box now.